Jan 18, 2018
Anger is a motivator, not an overall strategy for dealing with problems. Allow angry to inspire you to action: Examples: Felonious Assault - Righteous Anger Motivator / Application of Tools and Techniques is the Strategy. Being Told that I Cannot or am Incapable of Doing Something - Anger at Insult, Strategy: Prove said person wrong by doing the best job I can. This podcast is a Think On! Production.
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Alright, welcome back to Morning Mindset. I’m your host Paul Markel and thank you once again for joining me. Stand by for discussion of Mindset and all things that wrap around it, and let’s talk about Anger and whether or not it is a strategy. Anger is Not a Strategy, but I’m gonna tell you why. Anger is a Motivator. Now many, many moons ago, I was a young child and I went to Sunday School, and in Sunday School we obviously learned about the Old Testament and the New, and one of the stories we learned about in Sunday School was when Jesus went into the temple and her overturned the tables of the money changers, and he drove the money changers out of the temple.
Many of you had a similar upbringing, you may have gone to Sunday School or you may have gone to Church and you remember seeing paintings of Jesus driving the money changers out of the temple, right? When you’re a kid you hear these stories, and you acknowledge them and you appreciate them and you move on with your life, but often when you’re a child you don’t think “Well, why was that story told? Why was that story included in the new testament? What is the purpose of that story in my life?” Many years later, as an adult I started examining that situation, and you say “Well why would there be an example of Jesus Christ losing his temper or becoming angry?” I mean he didn’t drive, he fashioned a scourge out of cords and he drove the money changers out of his father’s house, because they had turned it into a den of vipers.
Well he didn’t drive them out of the temple with a scourge because he wasn’t angry, he was very angry because of that, he was upset over that. Now today in our modern world, it’s easy to fall into this trap of thinking or of believing that Anger is Wrong, and when you get angry, it’s like Yoda says man, “Anger leads to fear, leads to hatred, leads to the dark side.” Because what do we know from Yoda? Everything leads to the dark side. This push in our touchy-feely society, that if you ever become angry, then you’re wrong and you should do something to fix yourself, and if you become angry or lose your temper, you should apologize for that, that’s you doing something wrong.
That’s not really the case, the fact of the matter is sometimes anger is a valuable emotion, and I believe that story about the money changers was included in the new testament of the Bible, was to give an example to modern Christians, and to let them know “You know what, it’s okay, sometimes, to be angry.” Anger you know, it’s an emotional response, it’s an emotion, but it’s supposed to be a motivator, but not a strategy. Several years ago, a good friend of mine was in a business deal with somebody, and he thought everything was gonna go really well, and he was looking forward to this new business venture, and then after a couple months things kind of fell apart and his business partner did some things, said some things that upset him.
That made him angry, and he was really P.O.’d, he was really angry about that, and I talked to him on the phone for a long time, and he was telling me what he was going to do. His strategy though seemed to be based a lot on, you know, being angry. He was angry and he was gonna do this and he was gonna do this and this is how he was gonna go forward. I listened to him because I’m a friend and that’s what friends do, and then later on, you know after we weren’t on the phone anymore, I just sent him a text message. I said “Remember, anger is not a strategy,” and said “Yeah okay, I get you, see what you’re saying there.”
But let me give you an example, okay, of how anger is not supposed to be a strategy, but it is a motivator. If you are in a situation where, let’s say a thug, a criminal, a bad person, a neerdowell, attempts to engage in a felonious assault on you. They’re assaulting you with a weapon, or their fists, threatening your life with a gun or a knife or what have you. You should be angry, if someone attempts to engage in a felonious assault against you, you should be angry.
Anger is the motivator, you’re like “This person has no right to threaten me with a weapon. This person has no right to attack me. I am not angry, but how am I gonna deal with that?” Well am I going to deal with that through simply being angry? Is anger gonna lead me to the other side, to victory, to survival or what have you? Well no, actually it’s not. What’s going to lead me to the other side, what’s going to lead me to not being a beaten or bruised or dead victim, what’s going to lead me to the other side of being the victor in this situation, is the proper application of tools and techniques.
That’s my strategy, my strategy isn’t just to be angry. Someone attacks me, and my strategy is “I’m really angry, and because I’m angry…” you say “Well, doesn’t anger make you strong Paul? Doesn’t anger make you-” Well erm, eeeh, that’s not really the point. The point is, the Motivator was anger. Now I know, that was kind of a really serious example there, and you’re like “Well what about other things in life?” Alright I got one for you. I really, don’t like to be told that I can not or am incapable of doing something.
*Laugh* When people tell me, that I can’t, and that I can’t, I don’t mean “I’m not allowed”, I’m not using the word “Cannot” as allowed. When people say “Well, you can’t do that” or they belittle you to the point where they say “You’re a nice person, but you’re not capable of doing that. You’re not capable of performing.” If someone tells me, that I can’t, that they believe I am incapable of doing that. That generally angers me, I kind of feel insulted by that. Any time someone tells me, that I can’t do it, my knee-jerk response is to set out to prove that person wrong.
Now just because I feel kind of angry or insulted, that’s not my strategy. My strategy to prove them wrong is not to continuously be angry or insulted, my strategy to prove that person wrong is by going forward and doing the absolute best job that I possibly can, and succeeding in whatever endeavor it is that I couldn’t do. So anger in that case, was a motivator, like “Who are you to tell me I can’t do that? Who are you to tell me that I’m not good enough? I’ll show you!” But the strategy that I employed that yes I could do it, is not just to be angry all the time. That’s not a strategy. Now anger is not a sin, it is not wrong to be angry.
Regardless of what Yoda says about “Anger leads to hate, hate leads to the dark side” and so forth, the fact is, sometimes Anger is a motivator. Sometimes it’s a very, very justifiable motivator, but it’s not a strategy, alright? We need to understand that, there are things that go on in our world, you may see the news.
You read it on our phone or your laptop or your tablet or whatever, and you see things in the world that anger you. Okay, we acknowledge that. But in order to make things better, in order to correct the situation, in order to solidify our own position, we can’t just be angry. Anger is a motivator, alright? Anger is not a strategy, so don’t base your strategy on being angry. *Laughs* Your strategy has to be something productive and proactive.
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