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May 24, 2018

Def: the state of having inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, or attitudes, especially as relating to behavioral decisions and attitude change.

 

Episode Transcription

[INTRO]

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*Alex*

Welcome to Morning Mindset. A daily dose of practical wit and wisdom with a professional educator & trainer, Amazon best selling author, United States Marine, Television and Radio host, Paul G. Markel. Each episode will focus on positive and productive ways to strengthen your mindset, and help you improve your relationships, career goals, and overall well-being. Please welcome your host; Paul G. Markel.

 

*Professor Paul*

Welcome back to Morning Mindset Podcast, I am your host Paul Markel and thank you very much for joining me today. I hope you’re enjoying the show and sharing it with people who you feel need it. We’re going to talk today about something that’s a little more Complex. It’s a term that you may or may not have used before in your life, it’s called Cognitive Dissonance. Let me set it up like this. Have you ever met anyone in your life that you consider to be a genuinely good person, they were a nice, reasonable person or couple and they seemed to be struggling.

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They’re struggling with an issue, or maybe they don’t personally, but their family do or they’re seeing a problem. You offer a solution, something that seems obvious to you, you say “This person is a nice person, they’re intelligent, I mean they went to college so they must be smart.” Because everyone who went to college is a genius, I’m kidding obviously. But they went to college, they’re very nice and smart, and yet they can’t see or apply what seems to be a very simple/obvious solution to their problem, and it kind of befuddles you.

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You’re like “Why do they keep having these same problems or why can’t they solve this problem?” Well, Cognitive Dissonance is defined as; the state of having inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, or attitudes, especially as relating to behavioral decisions and attitude change. You’re like “Wow, that is something.” Maybe the reason that you or your family or acquaintances or whatever, the reason that they can’t see the problem and can’t apply what seems to be an obvious solution, is not one that jives with their currently existing belief system.

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You’re like “Hmm, now you’re really goin-” Yes. I’ll give you a really simple “For Instance”, you guys keep a fire extinguisher in your kitchen, all the time, every time right? You’re like “Well yeah, duh” and you’ve had one in your kitchen for as long as you can remember. To you, that’s pretty obvious, and that every person has a fire extinguisher and that it’s the first line of defense against a fire, right? Unfortunately, what I’ve found in my life, talking to strangers and such, you know I survey people. Not everyone in America in 2018 does that, not everyone in the US has gone out and deliberately bought a fire extinguisher and put it in their kitchen.

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Now if that’s something you’ve always done, it seems to you that is very obvious, and a straightforward solution, but there are people who have grown up with the internet and iPhones and 911, and it never occurs to them that if a fire starts in their house, the first thing they should do is call their phone and call 911. The first thing they should do is grab the extinguisher and try to make it stop. If you can catch a fire in the first 30 seconds to minute and a half, you can probably put it out and stop the firemen from having to come.

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But if you don’t deal with the problem immediately, like run outside and call 911, I’ll give ya a simple example. Grease fire, there’s a fire in the pan. Some people, instead of grabbing the extinguisher, would grab their phone and run outside to call 911 and wait for the fire department to be there. Well by the time the fire department gets there, their kitchen will probably be fully engulfed in flame. Whereas if they had just grabbed the extinguisher and put it out, they wouldn’t have had to do that.

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That’s an example of Cognitive Dissonance, because that guy, that’s not even in his wheelhouse to make that decision. Now there are many ways that we could appy with that, but that’s a very simple one. So when you’re dealing with people who, you say “The solution to me seems really obvious. But these folks won’t attempt it, or the definition of insanity, doing the same thing over & over and expecting a different result. For instance, many of our big cities in America are overwhelmed with crime, poverty and corruption.

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You say “Yeah, that’s terrible and we should do something”, but when it comes time to vote, people vote for those who have been voting for the same, failed solutions for decades. You say why would someone do that? Why would they keep doing that? The same thing that has failed for years x3, why wouldn’t they do something different? Why wouldn’t they go the other direction? Well, because they can’t, well, they can’t make themselves think that way. It would be an inconsistent thought or belief.

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The solution you’re offering is inconsistent to what they already believe, so they’re not going to do it. So I know, and the reason I brought this up is because some people are intelligent, college educated, they’re not bums. But they just can’t seem to grasp simple solutions, and you may be dealing with some of those people right now, and if you like these people, and want to really, genuinely help them, which is part of being a friend. Tell them “Hey, maybe what you’re dealing with, is a bit of Cognitive Dissonance.” Now if they tell you to go pound sand, that’s one thing.

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Don’t get too frustrated, I know it can be frustrating when you try to reach out to people and they don’t “Get It”. But just remember, Cognitive Dissonance. Alright, that’s it for today. Thank you very much for listening to this episode of Morning Mindset. I am your host Paul Markel, and I’ll talk to you again, real soon.

 

[OUTRO]

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*Alex*

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