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Aug 8, 2018

Life is not fair, it never has been and never will be. Fair is the place you go to ride the Ferris wheel and eat cotton candy. Resist the desire to compare your life, your cards to someone else.

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Episode Transcription

[INTRO]

♫ Trenches by Pop Evil ♫

*Alex*

Welcome to Morning Mindset. A daily dose of practical wit and wisdom with a professional educator & trainer, Amazon best selling author, United States Marine, Television, and Radio host, Paul G. Markel. Each episode will focus on positive and productive ways to strengthen your mindset and help you improve your relationships, career goals, and overall well-being. Please welcome your host; Paul G. Markel.


*Professor Paul*

Greetings, hello, howdy, how you doin? Time for another Morning Mindset, I hope you're ready because I'm ready to speak into the microphone so that you can hear it. Today's topic, we're going back to one of those colloquialisms. Kind of like “Make Hay When the Sun is Shining”. You may have heard your parents say this, or your dad or your mom throughout the years, “Play the cards you're dealt”.

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This is another one of those colloquialisms, it's one of those things that, doesn't necessarily mean you're going to play cards. Not just about playing poker, when someone says to you, “You need to learn to play the cards that you are dealt”, it's quite simply this. Life is not fair. It never has been and it never will be. I don't remember who it was that said this to me, but I heard it many, many years ago, decades ago even.

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It is this when someone says something about fair it's not fair. That's not fair, fair is the place you go to ride the ferris wheel and eat cotton candy. That's what “Fair” is. Resist the desire to compare your life, or your cards to those of someone else. You cannot live a positive and productive life. If you spend all of your time wishing that you had something else. Alright, you were either born tall or short, thin or not. Then you're either born with red hair or blond hair or black hair or what have you.

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Maybe you know, due to the blessings of genes and and your family history, you're naturally gifted as an athlete. Maybe you're not naturally gifted as an athlete, it doesn't matter. You were dealt the cards that you were dealt, and you have to deal with that. Play the cards that you are dealt. On the other hand, of course, this goes back to you know, poker or card games or what have you, and if you're playing poker and you get dealt five cards or seven cards or I have many cards and you look at them and they're not very good.

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You can't say “Oh stop. I don't have good cards. You have to do this over again and give me good cards.” No, not the way it works, right? Is that how card games work? It's just the luck. What they, what another colloquialism is, “the luck of the draw”. You get what you get. Now, there are some professional poker players out there, and if you guys have ever watched it on YouTube or, you know ESPN 8 the Ocho or what have you, you're watching the professional poker players and you'll find that the best players aren't necessarily the ones that are quote the most lucky.

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If you've ever watched the Texas Hold'em tournament or anything like that, you may have discovered that there are some people that do really well and win a lot of money and win often, despite the fact that it doesn't seem like they were dealt perfect cards. You know, they weren't dealt two Aces right off the bat, but they play the cards that they're dealt and that's what life is really about.

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It's not about whether or not something is fair, because life is not fair and it has never been fair. Anybody who tells you that they can make your life fair, that they can make everything fair for you, is a liar. They are a liar, and when people tell you that things should be fair, “I the interest of fairness, we're going to do this or that”. What they're basically saying is “You need to allow me to be in charge of your life or the lives of other people, and I'll distribute things as I see fit.”

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That is not fairness, that is control. When someone, when a politician tells you- when a politician says the word “fair” you should be running for the hills. Because what they really mean is “Put me in charge of everything and I'll do what I think is right.” That's not fair, okay? Because what is fair for you, may not be fair to someone else, and what is fair for someone else may not be fair for you.

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So stop worrying about what is fair and what is not, stop worrying about the cards that other people are dealt, quit worrying and moaning that somebody else got better cards than you. Somebody else is a better athlete than you, or they can run faster than you, or they're taller than you, or they're thinner than you or what have you. You know what? That person has their own cards to deal with. The people that you see that you think their lives are perfect, aren't necessarily perfect.

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There are a lot of people in the Hollywood pop culture, whether they're musicians or actors or what have you, you look at that person and you think “Wow, they've got it made. They’re famous and they’re handsome or they're pretty” or whatever, “Boy, they've got the World by the tail and everything's wonderful.” But if you're able to look behind the scenes, you might find that a lot of people are not happy, a lot of them are actually miserable.

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They're seeing therapists and so on and so forth, and very, you know, tragically many of these people who you see and you think their lives are perfect. They end up taking their own lives because they don't see that for themselves. So quit worrying about other people's cards, play the cards that you are dealt, and whatever those happen to be focus on making the best.

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What you have, you probably have more than you realize. Anyway, you probably have more Talent, more ambition than you realize that you have, and the trick is you cannot focus on your own Talent your own drive and your own Ambitions if you're also focusing on “Life isn't fair. I wish I had the cards that somewhere else one else was dealt.” You can't focus on what other people have, and wish that you had that, and also, focus on yourself and on your own abilities and desires and motivation.

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So play the cards that you are dealt, whatever it was. Whatever happenstance of life you’ve got, and it doesn't matter if you find yourself, you know, missing a leg something. There's a lot of guys out there, a lot of girls who've been in the global war on terror or even beforehand and now they've got Prosthetics or they have to use a wheelchair or whatever and it sucks.

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It's not fair. But you know what? Life isn't fair. I know a person, personally, I know a man who has two prosthetic legs, and he has a better attitude about life than most people that I know that have two good arms and two good legs. He could sit around all day and say “Woah is me, this sucks. It's not fair. How come this had to happen to me? I'm a victim.”

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Or he could do what he does, and he gets up every day and he takes life for what it is, and he plays the cards that he's dealt. So that is my advice to you today, don't worry about the cards that other people have. Worry about the cards that you have in front of you, play the cards that you're dealt and remember, fair is the place you go to ride the ferris wheel and eat cotton candy.

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Fair has nothing to do with life. Alright, if you haven’t picked up the new book yet, it's called Morning Mindset: a 30 Day Plan for a More Positive and Productive Life. It is available right now on Amazon. It's an Amazon Prime product. So you can get it shipped to you pretty close to immediately or you can go to I'm sorry Amazon Kindle and go to Kindle and get the Kindle version delivered to your phone or your tablet or your iPad whatever immediately so, there you go. I am your host Paul Markel and I will talk to you again real soon.


[OUTRO]

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*Alex*

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