Jan 2, 2019
You can be productive and independent or you can be a victim. The decision is up to you. Sadly, the victim card is so tempting and too easily accepted.
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Welcome back to the Morning Mindset podcast. I am your host Paul
Markel and we're going to continue on the brand new year on the
Journey of a new year with a question. Are you a victim, and you
say your knee-jerk reaction is “No”. Well if the answer is no, then
stop acting like one. I feel like I have to address this because
I've seen it far too often. I use often I use productivity tools
and one of the productivity tools that's really not that productive
at least for me anymore.
But it's a thing called LinkedIn and many of you if your contractors or your business professionals. The reason that I have a LinkedIn account is that some of the other business professionals that I do business with they have them and I set it up. I don't know years and years ago. I don't use it that much often anymore because now I don't rely on other people for my jobs. I actually rely only upon myself, but I digress one of the things I started noticing. On LinkedIn was when people would put their status and I'm United States military veteran.
I think I've spoken to that enough times for you guys to know that I served in the United States Marine Corps as an infantryman, and I did a bunch of other things as well, and I was in the first Gulf War with six Marines and we didn't know it was the first Gulf War at the time kind of like World War One, you know, when those guys were over there in Europe fighting in the trenches in World War 1. They didn't call it World War one because they didn't know it. I was the first one but I see military veterans, you know recently discharged military veterans, and in their LinkedIn accounts, they'll put things like “Disabled veteran”.
Now, I know that that might seem like a wise thing to do, you're like "Oh, but Paul don't you know that there are certain companies and businesses and programs that if you hire disabled veterans, then you get tax breaks and so forth?" Are you calling yourself a disabled veteran? Are you calling yourself Disabled? Is that how you refer to yourself? He's like "Well, you know, what's wrong with that?" It's generally, that is embracing victimization. If this hurts your feelings is just too damn bad because I'm not here to worry about your feelings. I'm here to help you lead a positive and productive life and I am here to tell you that you cannot and you will not be able to lead a positive and a productive and an independent life if you Embrace victimization. Every human out there listening to me has different abilities.
Some people are in wheelchairs some people use crutches. Some people don't some people lost limbs overseas. That sucks. You know what it doesn't mean that you are disabled for life. Does your mind still function properly? Are you able to speak and communicate with others? Yes, the answer is yes. You have something to contribute you are not a victim. I see in our modern world in our modern society a push a huge push for victimization the victim mentality. Everyone is a victim of an “ism” of sexism or racism or this is a more of that ISM many of the big rights movements of the 60s and 70s, maybe even go back to the 50s or whatever the rights movements started out.
As you know, potentially productive and good things and we want equal rights for all people equal rights for men equal rights, you know for women equal rights for you know, whatever your skin color is and your ethnic background and you know, all that stuff. It seems on the face of it in the beginning that it is empowering, and we throw these words around all the time. You see in you here empowering Empower this Empower that but unfortunately what these movements devolve into is not Independence and empowerment and strength what they devolve to is these masses of victims.
Rather than people saying yes, I'm going to take charge of my own life. I'm going to take charge of my own destiny. I'm going to work. I'm going to earn what I'd you know, just I'm going to deserve what I earn and learn what I deserve instead what these rights movements do is they create massive groups of victims. They make it easy for people to accept the victim card and fall prey to that, and if you have accepted the victim card if you put yourself if you will line yourself with another group of put-upon victims, you can't you are hindering yourself. Now. It's easy. It's part of the human condition human beings love their we have two brains.
We have two minds. We have the weak mind and the strong mind we have the lazy mind in the productive mine. In the lazy week, productive mine says heck. Yeah. I'm a victim of *blank*. I'm a victim of something. something or someone or some group of people did me wrong and now I'm a victim, and because I'm a victim then it's not my fault that I don't work hard. It's not my fault that I'm not productive. It's not my fault that I don't have the job that I want to have that I don't have the life that I think I deserve because I'm a victim. That's bull crap, that's toro caca. The United States of America was not a country built by victims.
It was a country built by people who said we're going to take charge of our own lives, and we're going to accept both our successes and our failures. We're not going to take our failures and blame them upon some other circumstance or some other group of people and say it's okay that I failed because it's not my fault. That is not how you lead a positive and productive life. My friends, I have a lot of acquaintances business partners friends close friends that have been in war and have lost body parts, and I'm proud that the vast majority of these people are productive individuals. Could you sit around and say woe is me, life sucks. It's not fair that this happened to me. It's not fair, you know, that I have red hair and freckles.
I'm teasing them kidding. You sure that's easy. Anybody can do that. Anybody can sit back and whine and cry and say I'm a victim, therefore, it's not my fault. You can you know as an American as a human you can do that. I would recommend against it because you're never going to be happy victims are not happy people victims are miserable people because victims don't take charge of their own lives. You can't be independent. You can't lead a productive and positive life. If at the same time you are dwelling on victimization and that is sick and twisted, just what do you want to say and I'm keeping this family-friendly and I hope you appreciate that because tomorrow is not going to be so much.
You can't live a positive and productive life if you've allowed yourself to buy into the victimization mentality. You know, what if you are a US military servicemen, if you're a veteran if you lost a leg or two legs, I have had the great Fortune of getting to know a US Army veteran a colonel who lost both of his legs from above the knee, bionic legs. Usually use a chair, sometimes crutches. Sometimes this guy has the most positive can-do spirit of any human you ever want to do encounter. He could sit around and say I'm a hundred percent disabled veteran and everyone needs to feel sorry for me poor me. Give me, give me, feel sorry for me.
He could but he doesn't. Gets up every single day puts on his bionic legs. He puts on a happy face and he says let's get this job done. I'm going to have to struggle it's going to be harder than it used to be but I'm going to do it. You don't have to be a victim. You don't have to buy into other people may have told you other people may have said, you know, wow life really wasn't fair to you. It sucks. You should you know, you have every right to sit in the corner and pout and you can and maybe you should for a little bit but get out of that corner.
It's time to start leading a positive and productive life. It's time to be independent. It's time to be strong and you cannot do that. If at the same time, you're calling yourself disabled, you're calling yourself a victim stop referring to yourself as disabled stop referring to yourself or thinking of yourself as a victim of something that's is where you're going to start. That's we're going to start right now today for brand new year no more victimization. Alright, ladies and gentlemen, I'm your host Paul Markel, and I will talk to you again real soon.
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