Dec 31, 2018
The term “resolution” has become a bit of a joke, or a punchline, due to the fact that most people make and break them in a very short time. We will take a close look at resolutions, goals, and challenges to help us improve our lives.
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What do people do what people talk about when December 31st rolls around, as the end of the year rolls around, people take stock in their lives. They think about what they did what they accomplished what they wish they would have accomplished. During the previous year and then they look forward to the new year and often we hear people making resolutions. Unfortunately, the reality of our world is that the term resolution has become a bit of a joke or a punchline. It's something that late night, you know night talk show comedians for a couple of days. We'll talk about resolutions and jokes and so forth and why is that? Why has the term resolution become a punchline or a joke?
Well, it is because most people make them and break them in a very short period of time whether it's a day or a week or a month, but what is a resolution what is what does it mean to resolve? Essentially a resolution is a promise that you make to yourself. When we talk about resolutions, generally we're not resolving that we're going to do something for someone else we're going to do something for ourselves. It's a promise that we make to ourselves. It's a challenge that we make to ourselves and unfortunately, many of us fall very short during that. But just because the resolution has become a punchline, doesn't mean that it's not worthwhile.
Think of resolutions as goals. We've talked about a previously on this show what short-term goals and Midterm goals and long-term goals, and whether or not it is a goal for let's say your resolution is to blank you want to improve your life. Somehow during the New Year. and you took a look in the mirror, and you said I need, whatever. I need to get a new job, I need to get a better job. I need to make more money, or maybe I need to fix my finances or I need to quit smoking or I want to lose weight. I want to get healthier or stronger or have a better relationship with my spouse a better relationship with my children, whatever it happens to be. That's great.
These are promises that we make to ourselves now when you set a goal if it's a specific goal, let's say you want to buy a new house this year you want to buy a house for the first time ever and you know, your lender said you have to have a minimum of $5,000 down before you can get the loan. So that is a very definite and specific goal. Your goal is to earn X now other times we say well I want to. Lose weight or I want to dis or that now the goal is important but just as important as the goal is the journey toward the goal because if you're serious about it, if you're serious about meeting your goals, whether they're short or mid or long-term goals, then what you will do.
If you're serious about achieving your goals is you will alter your behavior in order to achieve those goals. That's what challenges are often. We see and challenges become the new buzzword and quite frankly YouTube and the internet are wearing it out there wearing out the word challenge and they're watering it down and it's becoming almost pointless but challenges if you challenge yourself. You're challenging yourself. You are saying to yourself. I want to make a change. I want to make an improvement. I want to discipline myself. I want to lead a more positive and productive life and that's fantastic. Now often we fall by the wayside and we get disappointed with ourselves and that is one of the reasons why resolutions get broken.
People will say okay my resolution for this new year as I'm going to quit smoking cigarettes, right and they do good. They do well for a couple days and then the third day in they break down and they smoke a cigarette. Now what most people will do unfortunately is they'll break their resolution and they'll say well that was nice. I broke my resolution. I'm done. I might as well go right back to where I was before. What doesn't have to be the case, you know, let's say your resolution is I'm going to go to the gym three times a week every week all year long and by February 1st, you find that you've gone once or twice or three times in the entire month.
You say well, I broke my resolution. I might as well quit and go back to the way I was no, you don't have to just because you quote break and that's the thing about these New Year's resolutions is people think "Well, I broke my resolution. So that's it for the year. I'll try again in another 11 months. I'll try it again", but doesn't have to be the case, and you shouldn't expect that you're going to be perfect. I saw a picture. I was on the internet and it was a picture of a basically a fit or trim person and it showed them slowly morphing into an overweight, obese person and it said this end the title was it said: "This did not happen overnight." It didn't happen in a week or a month.
Even it took you 20 years from in 20 years. You went from being a physically fit person of you know, recommended weight to wherever you are now and maybe your maybe you that's not your problem. Maybe you're very physically fit right now, but what people expect. It took you 20 years to get to the point where you are 48 pounds overweight or whatever you feel is, you know overweight, and what we do to ourselves as we say, well I'm going to resolve and I'm going to challenge and I'm going to make myself. I'm going to be thin again, and they think that they're going to do it in 30 days. You know, it took you years to get to that position, that point and you think that in 30 days you're going to make this huge change? That's not how people work.
Maybe you've been smoking for 20 years and you want to quit. All right, you can quit you should quit but it's not going to happen overnight and you're going to stumble but just because you stumble does not mean now that you have you have an excuse and that is what we do as a society. We stumble and the very first time we stumble or the very first time that we fall short on our resolution or our path to our goal or our challenge or whatever the first time we stumble we use that as an excuse to quit.
Like "Hell, I broke my resolution, was nice while it lasted but I'm just going to go right back to where I was." No, you don't have to go right back to where you were. You don't have to go back to those negative or bad habits. Stop using it as an excuse. How many times have you heard that either from yourself or from others? Oh, yeah. Well, you know my new year my resolution was I was going to do blank. But then, you know, I was going to cut out sweets or I was going to cut out was it going to drink soda anymore wasn't going to eat, you know cookies or sweets anymore.
How is doing well for a few days and then you know I came home and I was tired and I had a bad day and and I ran for the cookie jar and and well, that's it. What do you mean that's it? Well, I broke my resolution. So it's okay and if we can be completely and totally honest with each other. How many of us have broken resolutions just so that we would have an excuse to go back to The Way We Were. did I slap you in the face with some cold reality? Yeah, that's true. So here's the deal. If you're serious, give yourself a break.
You know, you're going to stumble, it's okay. But if you're genuinely serious about your resolution, about the promise and think about like that when you hear the term resolution, think of it like this a resolution is a promise that you make to yourself. It's an agreement that you make with yourself. You're going to go for a new goal or a challenge or what have you? So just because you stumble just because you fall just because you break your New Year's resolution doesn't mean it's time to quit and go right back to where you were pick yourself up off the ground and drive on. Alright, ladies and gentlemen, well as my calendar is said this is going to go out on New Year's Eve, and so I will talk to you guys again next year. I'm your host Paul Markel, talk to you real soon.
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